One of the traits all successful people/high performers have in common is being able to call themselves on their own bullshit. They are really good at always expecting more from themselves and never being satisfied. They are their own biggest critics.
Being your own biggest critic can be the trait that propels you to greatness but it can also be the one thing that is holding you back from saying what you want to say, doing what you want to do, and living the life you want to live. There is a line between constructive criticism and self-destructive and demoralizing internal dialogue. FIND THAT LINE AND DO NOT CROSS IT.
You should be your toughest coach or your most intense counselor, not a bully you can’t get away from. You should be hard on yourself because you know you can do better and you want the best for yourself. Trust me I have more than a few choice words for myself when I neglect the small details or when I don’t push as hard as I know I could have. I am hard on myself because I know what I am capable of and I expect nothing less than that at all times. If your inner dialogue is you shitting on yourself because you aren’t lifting as much weight as that girl on Instagram or because you’re not as good as you want to be after one week of class you’re not doing yourself any favors. You are just stripping away your confidence and any momentum you once had to move towards your goals.
Being your own biggest critic is essential to getting where you want to be. If you take your half ass work and high-five yourself for giving 75% you’re going to be nothing more than average. BUT make sure you’re internal dialogue is constructive, not destructive.
Blue skies and tailwinds,
Sierra (AKA Little Miss Gains)