I’m coming to you today more fired up than usual. I have been seeing results in my personal and professional life that I thought would be taking much longer for me to reach. I had bought into the idea of paying my dues and slowly earning my chances as time and experience permit. This principle is still true, but I had misinterpreted it and used it as a massive excuse to explain slow growth in my business.
I was justifying the lack of new clientele to help by saying “I just haven’t put enough time in… I just need to maintain status quo and keep waiting for my breaks to arrive.” BULL. FUCKING. SHIT.
You know that lovely saying, “good things come to those who wait”? As Tim Grover says in “Relentless”, we need to drop that bullshit mentality and replace it with “Good things come to those who work”. That is much closer to the truth. Success in any field isn’t about sitting back and hoping for the right moments.
I had bought into that idea for far too long and blinded myself to the reality of my struggles. It was not a matter of time put into the business. It was a matter of me not doing well enough. I was literally feeding myself excuses as a means of justifying a lack of progress. Why? So that I could stay comfortable, complacent, and not have to work harder than I already was.
What a joke. I have spent the past couple months taking a deep look at myself and examining where my weaknesses are. I have taken the utmost ownership for the lack of growth and progress I have seen in my life and business. After all, it is 100% on me. It is no one else’s responsibility to make me successful.
By admitting that I was the problem, it allowed me to take action in solving this problem. Read, react, attack. I read the situation and found my biggest problems. I reacted by setting up a plan of action as to how I would address those problems and convert crippling weaknesses into strengths. Lastly, I attacked the issue head-on. It was uncomfortable. I lost sleep because of it. I was frustrated at times, worried at times, and felt downright confused at times. Why then, would I put myself through this?
Growth. By working on my issues instead of passively sitting back and waiting, I created my own opportunities and took action to follow up on them. The consequence of this journey? Progress in the right direction. This does not mean I am taking my foot off the gas. This does not mean I am taking it easy and coasting on my achievements. It will continue as a process of “read, react, attack”. Read into my problems, react with a plan, attack by going forward with the plan of action.
Now, why am I writing this? Is it to toot my own horn and tell you how great I am? No. I am far from where I want to be, so the last thing I would ever do is brag about myself or my achievements. I am writing this because I am just like you. I am just a dude who wants to make his dreams happen. I am going through the process of making them happen, and trying to provide insight in real time as I experience the biggest inflection points in my own learning. If I can do it, so can you.